Keepin the Love Alive.

For the last two weeks my life has been turned upside-down. Due to unforeseen circumstances we had to make a quick move to a new home and a huge project came up at the last minute and had to be completed during the week of our move. The truth is, shortly after finding out that we had to move, I realized that there was no way I could balance working, moving, and giving my children the attention that they needed. So for the first time since I have had children, I waved goodbye to them and sent them off to their Nanna and Poppy’s house.

A week apart from my babies was a real eye opener for me and my husband. The first two days alone together were nearly awkward. We barely knew how to function without our children distracting and making demands of us. In fact it wasn’t until the last couple of days that we were really able to get into each other and just enjoy being a childless couple.

The last three or four days were great. I was able to look at my husband much like I had the first time I met him. We were able to be playful and lighthearted with each other and reflect openly on some of the things that had put a damper on our excitement for one and other, and the four hour drive to pick up the kids was the best drive I can remember having with James. We talked and laughed and told and retold stories all the way up to my parent’s driveway. Once there we made a commitment to pay more attention to each other and keep the fire, at the very least, smoldering.

So how has it been since the children have been back? Well, to be honest, it has been pretty challenging to keep to our commitment, but we ARE working on it. I’d love to know what other moms are doing to either improve or keep their relationships with their partners healthy. Do you take personal time away from the children? Is one night out a month enough to keep the spark alive?